Thats me...a 9.Receptive,mutable and anger avoiding.Makes sense to me. A father I don't ever remember anything about except the time when I was around 18 he found out I was having sex. he actually said "why by the cow when the milks for free". How fucked up is that? My mother I only remember being depressed and crying. I learned early on making myself invisible was the only way to survive. No needs, be quiet and keep out of the way. Don't ask for anything as you won't get it. And married someone who was constantly needy. His family too. When I was 6 months pregnant Stu through his back out and was flat on his back. Then when Dani was born, he was hospitialized when she was 2 and a half weeks old. No wonder I have felt like Cinderella. But for the first time during my enneagram I realized that Cinderella also got the prince.
And in Ever After my very favorite retelling of Cinderella....
http://www.imdb.com/video/screenplay/vi4221894937/not only does she get the prince, but before that, she saves herself
